12/28/02
Bob's long update has prompted me to do the same.
I took a leave of absence from Cornell and so didn't graduate until '66,
and then went to Brazil on a Fulbright. I had taught Spanish to Peace
Corps volunteers the year before and spent part of the time visiting
them all over Peru. When I returned to the States, I started teaching
Spanish and Portuguese at Cornell. In '68 I went out to UCLA to their
master's program in folklore, but never finished. Instead I returned to
Ithaca and worked both teaching languages and in various other sundry
positions, including at Olin Library and in the Arts College.
Eventually I decided to go to medical school, and ended up in Spain,
where I worked my way through, teaching English as a foreign language,
doing simultaneous translations for conferences and written translations
of papers for publications in various journals, mostly medical ones.
Pretty exhausting, and very, very, very, very, very, very lonely. An
illuminating experience. All these cultures that look pretty much the
same on the outside but are so very different on the inside. Different
ideas of friendship; different ideas of education (a *completely*
foreign construct); different ideas of courting (yeah, I went through
that, too), and years to really begin to understand it all.
When I finally returned to the States - after 13 years - I did my
internship at Albany Medical College - another year of misery, and
learning just how mean people can be to each other (which I thought I
had learned all about in Spain, but there's always something more to
learn in this category) - and finally transferred to Danbury Hospital in
Connecticut (a Yale affiliate) for my residency, and found contentment,
friends, and a wonderful learning environment. I stayed there to work
for a year after completing my residency, then went to New Bedford,
Mass. where I worked in a community health center with many Hispanic and
Portuguese/Cape Verdean patients, as well as addicts and alcoholics (an
experience which disabused me of many of my '60s notions of who's
responsible for what), then back to Danbury for a while and finally
settled in Ithaca in '96, where I really should have been all along.
Anyway, I *love* medicine but *loathe* what bureaucrats have done to it
- and believe me when I tell you you haven't a clue. But perhaps over
dinner and wine/beer....
Various romances over the years but none that ever endured. Love to
read, audit classes at Cornell (mostly literature and history/government
- this spring will be Politics of the Civil War), partake of Ithaca's
many festivals and special events, including one of the largest yearly
used book sales in the country (y'all should come see it, in October),
and just enjoy this magnificent area. Lots of wonderful music around,
too. So, life is good. A couple of medical problems that are a
constant pain in the ass, but...no one promised me a rose garden. My
folks are still alive, and have just moved into a retirement community
which they quite like. My father is frail physically, but still sharp
as a tack mentally, and we enjoy talking about medicine together (he is
a retired physician), as well as the books we are reading. My mother is
losing her memory but retains her sense of humor. (One morning recently
when they were visiting here, she asked my father to put in her hearing
aid. When he finished, she looked at me with a dour expression and
said, "This is how you have sex in your eighties.")
So...life goes on, and I continue to cherish it, warts and all.
Friendship is the sustaining link in my life, and I am thrilled that we
have been able to renew ours. A great hug for each of you, and I do
hope that we will soon be able to see each other and chew the fat
(ample, in my case). Alice
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From: "Alice
To: family@rumford.com
Subject: James Alan Buckley
Date: Sun, 1 Dec 2002
I would like to get in touch with Jim Buckley, with whom I went to
college. He can email me at adm@clarityconnect.com - thanks!
From: Jim Buckley buckley@rumford.com
Sent: Sunday, December 01, 2002
To: Alice Michtom
Subject: Re: James Alan Buckley
Alice! You has found him. I is he. It's great to hear from you.
I live in Port Townsend, WA, am married to Bonnie, have several
grandchildren, three of whom have spent summers with us for the last
three years and went back to Guatemala with a 14 year-old grand
nephew a year or so ago and was appalled. I still row, run a
fireplace business and went back to Cornell last year for a reunion.
What about you? Where do you live and what have you been doing?
I haven't kept up with any of the Honduras crowd although I see a lot
of Jim Hoffman and less of Tom DeMarco.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards,
Jim
From: "Alice"
To: "'Jim Buckley'" buckley@rumford.com
Subject: RE: James Alan Buckley
Date: Sun, 1 Dec 2002
Jim! Omigod. You're out there. I'm so sorry I didn't do this last
year - we might have seen each other when you were in Ithaca for your
reunion, as I have been back here (Ithaca) since 1996. I have had a
very peripatetic history, including 13 years in northwest Spain working
my way through medical school, but am glad once again to be in this
lovely town whose landscapes never tire me or grow old to my eyes. I'm
working in Syracuse (I'm an internist) and enjoying, after so many years
abroad, having a community and feeling at home. There are still people
here from 25, 40 years ago, good friends, and it is a very special
delight. I am in touch with a number of people from Cornell - I don't
remember which of them you knew, but here's the list: I speak to Billie
Schildkraut maybe once a year, Bob Newman I talk to every few months,
Evie Brandon (she was with me in Trinidad in '63) I reconnected with at
a reunion a couple of years back, and others but I don't think you knew
them as they were not Honduras-associated. I actually found Bob
Bernstein a couple of years ago through the internet, and today I also
found Isao!!!!! (He's at UC Davis.) God, I love the internet. I am
single, comfortably, no kids though I do have a nephew I'm quite close
to. Never went back to Central America after '64, though remain in
touch with Rodolfo (did you know him? - from Trinidad) and now am
friendly with his quite delightful daughter, a mathemetician who met and
married an American some years ago when she came here for graduate work
(not even a twinkle in her father's eye in 1963). -- What are Jim
Hoffman and Tom DeMarco up to? Have thought of you all periodically
over the years. -- What do you do when you're not building fireplaces?
I audit courses at Cornell (this is great fun), make pathetic attempts
at playing the recorder in a recorder consort full of other pathetic
attempters, rarely play the flute and even more rarely the guitar (do
you still play?). (I think of you every time I see something about
Lester Flatt and Earl Scruggs.) I quite like middle age and consider it
the best kept secret in the world. -- Well, of course that's not near
everything, but good enough for a start. Do be in touch with more news.
Fondly, Alice
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